Conversations, when done well, are a two-way exchange of ideas, concepts, or information. Sadly, all too often they are not done well. One person dominates the conversation or in a group one or more people are shut out and never get a chance to speak. To make the most of our communications we must learn to be assertive.
Assertive communication is a balancing act between my right to my thoughts / opinions and respect for your thoughts / opinions. It requires us to stand firm in our ideas and right to be heard while keeping an open mind and listening to the ideas of others. Stand too firmly and you become aggressive and shutdown or shut out other voices. By only listening you may become too passive and never get your ideas out into the world. Strike the right balance and everyone leaves the conversation feeling heard and having learned something new.
5 Tips to Being Assertive in Conversations
As you practice these tips you will find yourself gaining confidence in your ability to speak up in any situation. So next time you find yourself in a meeting wishing you had a chance to say something, take a deep breath and calmly insert yourself into the conversation. If you are assertive in doing so you can get your voice heard.
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