When we find ourselves thinking in terms of us versus them, we are starting down an ugly path. This creates competition and the need to win. This is great in sports and yet it is very detrimental elsewhere.
Creating a situation where there are “sides” sets up a confrontation. It is very rare that people will be able to maintain a sense of curiosity if someone else is arguing that their side is correct. We get defensive and more entrenched in our stance, then we will go on the attack to prove our point. It creates hostility and shuts down the ability to find a solution.
This is not to say that it is possible to avoid conflict in every case, it’s not. We have different opinions, different experiences, different ideas and that’s great. Yet, it can lead to disagreements on which approach will work best or how to proceed. The key is to keep an open mind and actively listen to the other perspectives. Who knows you may learn something new! Equally we should expect people to listen to our perspective.
How can we make this work? Here are 5 tips to getting past the conflict and on to a solution:
When we look for a way to work together to resolve problems and find new opportunities, we open the door for inclusion, diversity and welcome everyone to the future. Creating an us versus them situation pulls people apart, shuts people out and diminishes us all. Division reduces the outcome while inclusion increase the options and results.
There are so many places in today’s world where people are picking sides. Let’s be the person who seeks to understand, searches for options and works with others to find solutions. All of us will be better as a result.
Let's stop fighting each other and work together for a better future for everyone.