When was the last time you asked yourself “who am I to….?” Maybe it was a situation where you needed to take the lead, or take a stand for yourself, or ask for a promotion, or point out an issue that appears to be ignored. Do you worry people will find out you are a “fraud” and aren’t really qualified to do your job; asking yourself who am I to think I can do this?
This is likely a form of impostor syndrome which leads you to doubt your accomplishments and feel you don’t deserve your success. This is pretty common, and it can happen more often when there are institutional models of competency; such as men being better in STEM fields. This can lead to women, and minorities, feeling like they can’t succeed, don’t deserve what they earned, or will fail publicly and prove to everyone they are a fraud.
What can you do if you find yourself going down this path? Take charge of your thoughts, focus on the successes and how they will help you in the future.
Here are 4 tips to silence that inner critic and build your confidence:
Use your past successes to give you the courage to dare now. You have done many great and wonderful things; you’ve also stumbled along the way. We all have, so what will you do? If you focus on the bumps you miss the joy of success. When you start to say “Who am I to…..?” stop and ask yourself why you feel that way. You are talented, capable and can do more than you think. Who are you to sit back and let other’s take the lead and credit? The more successes you have in the more you will have the courage to go further and do more than you dreamed possible.
You’ve got this!